I was on my team's weekly huddle call Sunday night and we talked about remembering that our best self is already within us and how to take action to get pumped up and back into alignment. My leader & friend even took a minute at the end of the call to speak directly to each of us and tell us what she sees in us and admires about us. Talk about meaningful "work"... so grateful.
Anyway, one of the suggestions was "I am" statements. Remember when people told us about this when we were kids and teens? I thought they were nuts. *eye roll*
Y'all, they work. I have two recent stories to prove it.
The first story is kind of funny… It was a Monday (December 10th) and I was frazzled and stressed and had no less than one hundred things to do personally and professionally… and I felt the stiffness and chilliness in my chest… and I also felt like I wanted to lie down in the floor… a cold floor, flat on my back, eyes closed, allowing life to go on around me. I was super aware that I was spiraling but I also felt like I couldn’t do anything about it. (I’ll take the awareness as a win.)
I remembered our chat the night before and my success with I am statements a few weeks ago and decided to whip that tool out of my tool bag and put it to good use.
So there I sit, eyes closed repeating I am statements in my head. Why is this funny, you ask? Well, it’s funny because I did this in the bathroom while tinkling. Multitasking at it’s finest.
I am productive.
I am energized.
I am positive.
I think clearly.
I get shit done.
I take one step at a time.
I prioritize well.
I am productive.
And when I was done, I stood up and continued my I am statements. I turned to wash my hands, still repeating my I am statements.
Guess what? Yep, you guessed it. This actually helped me. It worked. I embodied the feelings as I said them and my energy skyrocketed and I drank a fizzy and I ended up cranking out everything I needed to do that day without feeling miserable or frazzled.
My second example isn’t so funny but it matters.
I was in a situation where I had to defend, say things that made me uncomfortable (people-pleaser, right here!), get to the bottom of some serious stuff, and make my feelings crystal clear. I avoid situations like that, as most of us do.
In the shower that morning, I spoke to myself using I am statements. I was so scared. I was nervous, and terrified that I was going to blow it. One of my biggest insecurities is about how I communicate, especially when all eyes are on me or when in not-so-pleasant situations. I kind of space, black out, get so wrapped up in the emotions that I forget how to think and speak. It turns into a jumbled heap of word vomit… or silence. One or the other.
So my I am statements that morning were…
I am confident.
I am articulate.
I am committed.
I speak truth.
I am thoughtful.
I am patient.
I am calm.
When the time came, I was still scared shitless and nervous as all get out… but I knew that if I was going to show up the way I wanted to show up, I’d have to start faking it until I make it. I told myself I am confident and articulate… I sat up straight and put my shoulders back… and I nailed it. There are a lot of proud moments in my life, and this one is up there on the list. I’ll always remember it. And I’ll always remember the work I did to embody the feelings I wanted to feel.
It’s there. It’s already within you. It’s already within me. Our best self is already within us. We just forget… but I’m here to remind you today.
Get in the zone, realign yourself with the universal goodness that is always within you… and go rock your day!
Give I am statements a whirl and let me know how it goes for you!